Being tied up during sex

When you ask people what they enjoy about tied up sex, you will get a wide variety of answers and a few awkward jokes. You will find that most binding practitioners are motivated largely by their partners pleasure. To really understand tied up sex, you first have to tunderstand what makes a person want to be bound. I think that in many cases it is related to the contrast with daily life. Your boss may seem to micromanage your every move.

Curious about the consensual, erotic power play of BDSM, but don't feel ready to invest in a full-scale dungeon just yet? We have good news: You can add BDSM moves to your partnered sex life without spending a mint on new accessories or mastering dozens of different rope ties. And while investing in kink gear and sex toys can be fun, this kind of play is ultimately about you, your partner or partners, and consensual power exchange, not capitalism. Likewise, various household items such as rope and clothespins can be used in scenes, and they hardly cost anything at all.

Question: Do you have a bedframe? A silk scarf? A tie? A pair of stockings?

Bondage is an amazing way to tap into the psychological aspects of sex—the stuff that makes sex sexy instead of just body parts rubbing each other. Tying someone up or allowing yourself to be bound, is about trust, uncertainty, submission, creativity, communication, control and, surrender. It can take your relationship and your sex life to the next level. Before you start with the tying, there are some important things to keep in mind.